Weaning, whining and the end of “D”

January 19, 2012

My boobs have had the adventure of a lifetime: breast feeding. That’s what they are there for, right? Not just fabulous ornaments to entice our partners and add a nice silhouette to your fashion ensemble. No, these boobs have been working hard-day in and out, all night and whenever little man had interest. My philosophy has been to follow his cues, feed him on demand and have no restriction to access… I have been a “D” machine (his loving little name for nursing).

And now I am weaning.

I have poured over the internet for the “best” ways to wean, read numerous articles from other moms and various “experts.” Guess what? THIS IS NOT A SCIENCE. Like all choices in parenting, there is no right answer, no proper way to transition from full-access to denial of le breast.

So, as usual the best method is to follow one’s own instinct and heart about the matter and see how it goes.

My original intention was to nurse Archer, on demand until two. He is nearly 21 months and I feel successful and proud of my efforts…..and SOOOO ready to stop.

Christmas nursing...eyes somehow always closed!

I don’t want to emotionally traumatize the little guy and am doing it slowly, as is comfortable. He eats, a lot, and has gradually decreased his interest but not completely. We started implementing distraction during the day and evening. “Look at this book” or “play with this toy” or “eat some yogurt”.. you get the picture.  I’ve been nursing him when he wakes up, before he takes a nap (or really, more like trying to get him to take a nap) and before bed. Occasionally I have nursed in the middle of the night- he sleeps with me or his dad rather than in a crib-which has been very convenient until this moment of transition. I find it super helpful for other people to be involved in this process. John taking him to sleep with him, my older girls distracting him, grandparents and very soon some overnights away. I will say, that when its just me and little dude its a bit more challenging and there are little “D!” tantrums and tears. Hopefully this will subside-soon. I’m doing my very best to console him, distract him and let him know that today there will be “D” before nap time,  and before bed. But the menu is changing and within weeks, “D” will no longer be served.

There is an emotional element of losing this aspect of our relationship-lil’ Archer and me. He not only obtains immune support and nourishment, he derives great pleasure and comfort from nursing. And here I go taking that away…. so the way I am attempting to transition this aspect is by showing him that we can cuddle almost anytime. Rather than nursing that extra bit in the middle of the night, last night for example, I placed the skin of my cheek on his face where my breast would be and held him. This seems to work fairly well. Its not necessary for the breast to be in his mouth to receive the skin contact and emotional connection (shocking, I know). 

I’m not a big fan of conventional milk. I’m a primal/paleo lady and occasionally eat dairy in the form of goat cheese etc. but the idea of giving him milk in a sippy cup is  not my ideal way to transition. Calcium and fats, vitamin D and protein are better taken in whole foods, herbs and sunshine, and good ol’ fashioned animal bits. Luckily, he has no taste for milk and absolutely loves all of the rest (except he does have a penchant for the sugary milk at the bottom of his dad’s cereal bowl–thanks, John! haha).

He nurses less when his belly is full…. so I keep him stocked up on proteins and fats, berries and fruits and lots and lots of H2O. He’s a big boy and requires a lot of food to fuel that growing little body!

So, as I head toward the end of this beautiful, primal, connected, patience-trying, at times exhausting experience I’m pretty proud of what I have accomplished. 21 months of being physically available and emotionally present. Giving my entire self to this little beautiful creature to ensure his health and happiness (and increased IQ). I struggled through the bullshit of everyone suggesting that I stop at various junctures of the process, add formula-blah blah blah. I pumped and nursed, pumped and stored, pumped and pumped and took fenugreek capsules, placenta capsules, drank lactogenic herbs, ate lactogenic foods, took supplements, nursed in public, made my own hooter hider (yay), connected with and received support from other  nursing mom’s when I was unsure or worn down, defended my choice to nurse as long as I have, endured scrutiny (ridiculous, by the way) … I did it all!

And now I am almost done. So, thank you breasts for all your fabulous accomplishments! Here’s to hoping you are still ornamental!

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Fenugreek- a Nursing Mother’s Best-Friend.

July 24, 2010

 

My son and me

My recent adventure with nursing my newborn son has been a first class education for me–not only as a mother and woman, but also as an herbalist and health care provider. I entered into the world of my newborn with high hopes and sheer will to nourish him with what nature had intended–my breastmilk.

I have girlfriends for whom breast feeding came completely natural- by this I mean they had no issues, needed no instruction and really never experienced any pain. Good for them! I have also had girlfriends who struggled furiously at the beginning only to end up with severe mastitis and a lack of desire to continue. For me, this time around, I found it to be a mostly intuitive experience that needed some professional tweaking (so to speak).

Archer and I worked very hard in those first few weeks and yet he continued to remain the same weight.  After many furious feeding marathons and quite a few visits to the pediatrician, I blended some herbs for a yummy lactogenic tea, I encapsulated some organic Fenugreek seed (Trigonella foenum-graecum) , I drank green leafy drinks daily and I visited a wonderful Lactation Consultant at Littleton Hospital–where I delivered– named Mary. She was so helpful!

I DEFINITELY recommend Fenugreek seed capsules, rather than tea or tincture, for every nursing mother simply for ease of use. I took 3 size O caps 3 times a day for more than a month and found my breast milk supply to increase and maintain after discontinuing to take it. I also keep some on hand for days that I feel I could use a bit of increase.

Each O capsule contains roughly 680 mg of material= 6120 mg (5000 mg is a teaspoon).

From what I can find in my plethora of resources, the mode of action is that it encourages lactation by stimulating breast tissue to grow. In addition, it slows the rate of break down in the liver of estrogen, allowing levels to be a bit higher to support lactation. It both promotes, and supports lactation.

Fenugreek has been used for thousands of years in Ayurvedic medicineto decrease Vata and Kapha and increase Pitta– warm the body. It is said to affect plasma, blood, marrow and nerve tissues and reproductive tissues (The Yoga of Herbs, Lad and Frawley). It is contraindicated in pregnancy–so don’t take it in anticipation of nursing, wait until post-partum!

Fenugreek is also used commonly to support stabilization of  blood sugar and correct imbalances in cholesterol (LDL vs HDL).

Fenugreek  is a nursing Mother’s best-friend. If you have a breast-pump available, add in several sessions of pumping in between feedings or when the little one is sleeping to multiply its effect as well as its nice to SEE that you are  succeeding.

So with all of the minor changes, his latch improved, my confidence soared and my stress levels dropped dramatically. We were in the milk-making business! I now nurse him with ease and am so proud and happy that I did not give up. I perservered. I pumped, nursed and nursed some more and although it was truly challenging at times, it was all worth it. Fenugreek Seed was such a simple thing that I could do for myself, and you can too!

 One side effect– you smell like maple syrup! So to all you nursing mamas out there, don’t give up! Feed the masses!

Much love,

Trysta Major 

Contact me with any questions/concerns, I would love to help! Trysta@IntegrativeHerbalism.com

Any information contained in this website is not intended as medical advice nor to diagnose and/or treat any illness.  If you have any concerns about this information, please contact your provider and/or certified Herbalist.

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Post-Partum Health: Breastfeeding

February 15, 2009

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Having a baby is one of the most amazing experiences a woman can have in her lifetime. Those of us who choose to have children are often times not aware of the struggles and changes that we face after this monumentous occasion. I , for one, didn’t realize just how difficult breastfeeding was until I experienced it firsthand (some of you lucky ladies have no problems at all)–its not something women normally talk about, nor is there a warning label:

“Warning: nipples will crack and possibly bleed.”– there is no manual for such experiences in motherhood (and would we really follow it if there was?).

There are many transformations that occur in every level of our physiological makeup such as hormonal changes, organs moving about the now-vacant abdomen, an increase in the acuity of hearing: so many things (not to mention the strange goings-on when one sneezes). In addition to the biological changes there are many other issues to be dealt with:

Lack of sleep becomes the norm. At first, the newborn sleeps quite a bit of the time, but only for a few hour intervals between feedings. When my daughter slept 5 hours straight it felt like an entire night of sleep. Of course, I worried that she slept way too long and that something could be wrong.

The nature of your relationships change. It is no longer just you or just you and your partner–now there is someone even more important at the top of the food chain. Your parents become grandparents, and begin acting strangely– an odd thing happened to me after I gave birth, I became the vessel that brought forth, “the GRANDCHILD.” Everything in your life changes.

Sex becomes a bit more difficult to manage with the additional stress, decrease of time and the new little body in the bed/ on the breast, (not to mention the fear that one has of the vagina after all of its glory has been utilized).The truth is that once you are ready, it is important. (Practitioners generally advise 6 weeks).

Then there is the fear and worry. During pregnancy there are fears and worries, but less so to some degree, as the baby is nestled tightly in your very own body. After your newborn arrives in the external world, it seems that worry simply increases. Every moment between their breaths becomes a breathless moment, every frown a concern, every sneeze is momentous. . . you get the picture. It seems that we nearly drive ourselves mad with all the worry that we neglect nearly everything else! (at least with the first child).

Suffice it to say that EVERYTHING changes after you give birth.

The most important thing to remember (which is often and usually forgotten) is to take care of YOU. Without being healthy, you are unable to take as great of care of your precious infant as you would be if you were well.

When breastfeeding, it is necessary to eat at least 500 calories more than is normally required for your height/weight/activity level.  My favorite nutritional pyramid is Dr. Andrew Weil’s anti-inflammatory food pyramid . This includes healthy sweets such as dark chocolate, supplements that are necessary for optimal health, perhaps an occasional glass of wine. It is really an excellent template for the types of foods that assist our bodies in their natural processes: especially when developing the immune system of an infant. (make sure you eat enough as those calories translate into better milk for the little one).

When encountering difficulties with breastfeeding there are soo many natural ways to deal. Some women choose to use lanolin in between feedings to soothe chapped nipples (make sure to wipe off before feeding) you can also apply an herbal salve, use vitamin E oil, aloe vera, cocoa butter, or almond oil (discontinue if you have any negative reaction).  Your local food coop or natural grocer will have a variety of these available, as well as you can have your Herbalist customize a blend to create the perfect salve (email me for more information).

It is also important to allow those boobies to breathe! Allowing your nipples some sunshine and air (perhaps in a windowed area where no one will see, unless that is your cup of tea) can help prevent nipple yeast from occurring. One thing that I found useful was taking extra large tea bags to accommodate the increase in size, get them wet and place directly onto your nipples. The tannins in the tea (Camellia sinensis) are astringent and are highly anti-inflammatory. Also, make sure to wash your bra frequently and go without nipple shields as often as possible.

The pain occasionally associated with the “let down” of milk  as well as engorgement can be addressed several different ways. For let-down aches, warm compresses work wonders as well as gently massaging the breasts. Engorgement pain can be quickly solved by breastfeeding, pumping, or if you are so inclined your partner can also assist you in this (intimacy achieved). Some women never experience discomfort with these; however, there are many that do.

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Getting enough fluid during this time is essential and can have multiple benefits. One way to make sure you are hydrating enough is to have a cup of soothing herbal tea every time or every other time you breastfeed. Some great herbs to imbibe that also assist with lactation are chamomile (Matricaria recutica), catnip (Nepeta cataria) both of which are also great for calming baby’s nerves and stomach in general but especially in cases of colic, fennel seeds (Foeniculum vulgare), nettles (Urtica dioica), red raspberry leaf (Rubus idaeus) which is also the number one uterine tonic, red clover blossoms (Trifolium pratense), milk thistle (Silybum marianum): just to name a “few.” Once again you can find most of these herbs at your natural grocer; however I highly recommend purchasing your own individualized blend from an Herbalist.

There are a few problems that can arise during breastfeeding such as nipple-yeast, mastitis and thrush for your baby. There are many ways to treat these all without antibiotics having to be part of the equation automatically. One of the best remedies for nipple yeast and thrush is black walnut tincture. Four times a day apply topically to the nipple with a clean q-tip/cotton swab and then with a new q-tip/cotton swab, swab your babies mouth.  You can also apply plain, unsweetened yogurt or diluted apple cider vinegar topically. Internally you can take echinacea  which is not harmful to the baby to boost your immune system ridding itself of the infection. There are many different remedies for candida in these cases; however these seem to be the simplest and most effective.

Every woman is very different: especially in motherhood. You should always remember to follow your own instincts and innate wisdom as well as your heart.  Some wonderful books that you may find useful are listed below.

Any information contained in this website is not intended as medical advice nor to diagnose and/or treat any illness.  If you have any concerns about this information, please contact your provider and/or certified Herbalist!

xoxo

Books:

The Continuum Concept

This book is amazing, it really gives an anthropological look at the necessity of holding your baby, especially during the first year of life, in developing a healthy person.

Natural Health after Birth

Natural remedies for many post-partum issues.

What to Expect the First Year

Lots of information about what types of changes your newborn will go through during the first year, and what your practitioner is looking for developmentally.

If you find this information helpful, subscribe!

Also, please feel free to contact me at Trysta@integrativeherbalism or leave a comment if you have any questions about this topic! xo

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